Trauma can happen anywhere, and it doesn’t discriminate. There is no such thing as a “typical” traumatized person. Although we tend to focus on the obvious examples of war and natural disasters, trauma never happens in a vacuum. We all experience trauma at some point in our lives, and there is no such thing as “shock trauma.” Trauma is a chronic condition that changes the way the brain works. Trauma can reshape us and how we adapt.
How Trauma Can Reshape Us and How to Adapt
Trauma happens to everyone. Some of us have been through a horrific event, while others have been exposed to other violent or threatening situations. In either case, trauma can have a deep impact on our lives. In the past, trauma was thought to be a destructive force that changed our physical and emotional selves. This caused us to feel different from the person we used to be. We often avoid talking about the event and the emotional damage that was done. The following can help you to reshape and adapt to your trauma.
Give yourself time to accept
Trauma is a powerful force that can be either a blessing or a curse. It can cause profound change if we use it as a way to cage our past and move on to our future. When we feel trauma, we need to know that we will feel it. However, we need to know that we will not let it control us, nor will we let it define who we are.
Be friends with another survivor of trauma
There are many who have found themselves in a traumatic situation, either personally or professionally. The trauma has changed their lives. Although the change has been profound, it is possible to overcome this trauma.
Support is the one you need
Support from family and friends is the one you need to cope up with your trauma. It is normal that it is difficult to talk about your traumatic experience. But once you talk it out, you may have a little relief, and you will let it go because your family can support you to forgot your trauma.
Have some self-realization
What do you want to be when you grow up? Do you even know? Self-realization, meaning knowing yourself to be who you are, can be elusive to most people. This is especially true for people who have experienced trauma because the body’s response to trauma can be to shut down. It’s key to understand that trauma is not the same to all people. It does not mean that there is something wrong with you, but that you will need to figure out how to reconfigure it. Instead of always trying to remember what happened, calming down, and waiting for it to go away, it is important to understand your body’s reaction to it.
Do your routine
Contrary to popular belief, some individuals respond well to trauma, becoming stronger and better able to deal with the sometimes overwhelming experience of trauma (see “Sacred Hoop”). Many survivors of trauma find that they are better equipped to deal with the subsequent challenges of life. These individuals are often referred to as “strong” or “survivors” because they are resilient despite their past experiences. Because the choice to have their routine may help them to reshape and adapt to trauma.
There are a lot of people trying to cope with the traumatic events they have experienced. Sometimes, the only way we can cope is by going to a therapist or a psychotherapist. You may learn a lot about yourself and how to deal with your traumatic memories and emotional reactions.
One of the most startling aspects of post-trauma life is the way in which we can feel like we’re repeating our trauma, and to a certain extent, we are: we’re simply still in the old situation, but we’re changed. Understanding what trauma does to us and how we adapt to it is the first step in changing the script and how we respond to it. When we identify and accept this, we can begin to reshape and adapt what we’ve been through. And you don’t even know that one day you will finally reshape yourself from whatever traumatic event it is.